It’s not Personal…It’s Cancer

First of all, I have to give a shout out to mom and Team Loco. We achieved landmark status today…we have been Googlized! That’s correct, if you go to Google and type ChemoSabe into the search box, our little blog, The ChemosSabe Chronicles, appears on the first page of results. Mom is a superstar in cyberspace and that would explain some of the lovely and encouraging emails we have gotten from others in different states across the U.S. - people facing cancer that find some similarity and humor in our parallel universe.

My mind was pondering in the shower this morning (I do some of my best thinking there) on how we sometimes interpret things too personally. For instance, when I visited momisan yesterday, she said she had received a few phone calls asking why she didn’t call to let someone know she was sick or in the hospital. Sometimes when you are in the midst of flying IV tubing and trying to dodge a nurse on a mission, wielding a pointy needle…you just forget. As her child and part of Team Loco, I sometimes forget.

We try and keep everyone in the loop as best we can. We field phone calls, emails, blog and rely on others to spread the word because the truth of the matter is there are not enough hours in the day to make 30 or more separate phones calls to keep everyone up to speed. For those who have taken a similar journey, you will understand that there are days when you are taking care of someone and days when you are catching up on all those things you have put on hold to either be a caregiver or a supporter. Most people are extremely understanding. But if you have not gotten an update from me, pop or Andy, please do not be offended. It’s not Personal…It’s Cancer.

I am happy to report that yesterday I found momisan and pop sunning themselves on the back porch at Casa de Longo. I stayed for a short visit and mom told me that hey had enjoyed a backyard picnic with the latest grub dropped by the Food Fairy (bbq pot roast with some homemade coleslaw). Today is her follow-up with the radiologist that sutured in her drainage tube, so we are hoping for some good news on that front.

For those of you that read this blog, I am sure that you understand the reasons why we share it with you. It is not to impress you, but to inspire you. If we can help just one person or family facing cancer understand that they are not alone, then we have accomplished what we have set out to do. When you have moments of doubt, if you can recall the 80 year-old lady in Texas that is putting up one hell of a fight, and that gets you to another day in your journey, then we are happy to share our story. If you find laughter and joy in the midst of sorrow and fear, then giving you a glimpse into our silly side is worth it. When you feel alone, know that there is unity with those who walk the same path. When you find hope in the midst of defeat, then we are happy to share our progress as well as the set backs. And when you can find your blessings within the swirling waters of chaos, you will know why I consider this journey a privilege and priceless experience between me and my mom.

It is definitely not a journey for the faint of heart or the self-absorbed. You have to be an unsolicited “giver” if you expect to walk with a patient and be of any benefit to them. I for one am proud to be a card caring member of Team Loco!

Thank you all for your prayers, love and encouragement.

Val